Love is a beautiful thing that one experiences between a partner and thyself. It's an incredible feeling of being wanted and feeling that someone out there on planet Earth loves you for every thing you are. Flaws and all.
In my opinion, as you grow older you lose this knowingness of what love actually is. Some adults may say "Puppy love" or what not when referring to the younger generation. But deep down they wish they knew love like teenagers did.
In my personal experiences, I've had many a time where I have sworn that I have been in love with someone - but now looking back I tend to shake my head and think in disgust of that very same person I used to of liked. But as you grow older, you meet new people, and you find out how you actually feel about them. You relate them to your previous relationship, and can say "They are defiantly better." As you go through more people you understand the actual concept and meaning of love. The need to feel close to another, of maybe not the opposite gender, but for some; the same. To have the urge to hold them close, to comfort them, to care for them, to listen to them, and to be with them for the rest of your life. I personally can't say that I know what love is, but I think I'm fairly close, and if not there is still time to love a person more and more each and everyday. I've found someone who is special to me, and I never want them to leave my life. They are one of the reasons I feel inspired to wake up in the morning, knowing I will get to talk to them or read posts from them during the day. They make me feel happy,wanted and loved all in one phrase "I love you." But with this sentence comes honesty. I think that the word 'love' is over used, and although many may say it a lot, only few do mean what they are saying. I believe that with time you can fall in love, but only with whom you are physically and mentally attracted to. For instance, you can love your friend, but you will never be able to love them as you would love a partner. There are of course instances where some may say "I had a best friend, and we soon fell in love." No, this is entirely wrong. A friend means someone you are not attracted to in any way shape or form. Sure you may say they are attractive, personally I can't say any of my friends are ugly. But with saying that does not mean I feel tingles whenever I see them, or blush at the very sight of them. When people say that their best friend and themselves fell in love, it doesn't work that way. They fell even further into love. They were a companionship not friends, they both deep down liked each other - and since talking to them for a while, grew even fonder. That is something I don't get about people. The way they think these things sometimes. It doesn't work like that. You may see or hear about these things in books or movie, but that is all fantasy. True love comes from the very first time you know you have a slight attraction to someone. And it continues from there.
Love, that very real love that makes you stop eating, and melts your brain, can happen any time - between teenagers, or between people in their middle age, or even when they get old. Love as an emotion will always be a mystery, I think. I think you can love your friends though - learn to love them as a partner. It can happen, but not usually in the same way as that kind of love that just hits you like a brick. It can hurt that much if it isn't reciprocated. Love in any form is better than conflict, hate or contempt. Always. (Laurence)
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